Hiya all,
Bill Bill and I have had a rollercoaster of a ride, for the new members, here is the link to our story:
http://www.mixtogether.org/forum/index.php/topic,584.0.htmlWe got married March 13th at a temple in Watford, the Hare Krishna Temple, our wedding was small, intimate and we were surrounded by our loved ones.
I guess, I never expected things to turn as well as they did and we are both so grateful for having parents that want us to be happy.
Now that we are married, I love waking up next to BillBill every day, he is my soul mate who takes care of me and even does the cleaning, just because he knows I hate cleaning! lol He loves it when I cook and I love it when he cleans, it works out pretty well.
Like all relationships, we have our bad days, days when I'm just being a moody cow and BillBill knows to stay out of my way. He works on Saturdays and I have to say its the lonliest day of the week for me, I can't wait till he gets home.
When Im at work I look forward to going home just because I know BillBill is waiting for me, we cook together and do almost everything together.
Of course not everyone appreciates us being together all the time.
My siblings have now kind of given up asking us out with them, they don't really like the fact that we do things together and actually enjoy spending our time together. My brother and brother in laws all hang out and drink together and BillBill would rather spend time with me and that way we can drink together. Gatherings at my sisters house end up with men in one room drinking and the women in another room, which I don't like especially as Sundays are our only whole day together and if we are going to be spending it with others we would like to be together at least.
I guess we have gotten used to no longer being invited to dinner now, and we are fine with that.
We made it through the most difficult part, and without each others commitment it wouldn't have been possible, we were in it together 100% without any doubts, this is very important. I know its hard being torn between your family and your lover, many people sacrifice their love for their families. I have a great relationship with my parents especially my father and had initially made my mind up and thought if I had to choose between my family and BillBill, I would have chosen BillBill, I was mentally preparing myself for that-it wasnt easy and I did break down in tears plenty of times just thinking about it. Luckily when it came to crunch time, I didnt have to choose as with time, my parents met BillBill and saw the wonderful man that he is.
Our next move is to apply for my spousal visa for the USA, this takes about 6months, yes it takes forever! Hopefully by christmas we will be moving and setting up home in BillBill's home state of North Dakota or wherever we end up wanting to move.
My parents have already said they will be visiting us once we move
So things can work out, for some it takes longer than others, perseverance, determination, commitment and love are the key factors needed. If you both want it bad enough it can happen. Family may not always back you up and thats where things get difficult and where you have to be strong as a couple. Stand your ground, never apologise for falling in love.
Ange and BillBill
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