Forethought..channel four on mixed marriages.

[saffron]

Please view this link...it gives a number of views on mixed marriages...It is interesting how people adapt and view their situations...

http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.4thought.tv%2F4thoughts%2F0409-Sameem-Ali-Should-you-only-marry-for-love&h=nAQEzEO5wAQEb8b3qZDU2jSZ-HvbsGnymYJwvJ9yfTtAVHA

[Dev1975]

Thanks for the link Saffron, there are some interesting points of view on display here.  Good to get different opinions on what can sometimes be an emotive topic.

[saffron]

Yes its well worth watching these points of view...I have learnt much from watching them, whats important is that people adapt to mixed marriages in their own unique way ,not unlike any marraige ...this is the bit we have to keep in perspective.

[Spidax]

This was really interesting. quick snippets into peoples thoughts and feelings, I particularly liked the philosophers point of view. We want it all, yet the things that we want dont always go together that well.
he also said something that I feel too that you dont really know that person your in love with, or really know yourself and you want a lifetime to be able to figure out and grow with that one person because you want to know them, and for them to know you and once you make that commitment that is what you aim to do.

thanks for posting Saffron x

[Spidax]

Because i was intrigued by 4thought i have been watching other, moral, religious and social questions on this and also found. "should we raise children in mixed marriages:
http://www.4thought.tv/themes/should-we-raise-children-in-mixed-marriages/minna-salami?autoplay=true

lots to think about

[saffron]

Hi Spidax , yes I like what youve picked up..about the philosophers point,it really is that dance...between 2 people...it must be like that for all relationships in a way..people enter relationships thinking x and y might make a good combination,but they havn't always been able to test this out well..like over a lifetime! But I think if its a good dance..with the dance steps practiced regularly, will make the difference to the quality of the relationship,and then learning more dance steps!  

BT will be rolling with laughter with the example Ive given!

Spidax r you ok? Have you heard from your OH back at home?

yes...I think Ive seen the one on children in mixed relationships..thanks for putting this up x

[Spidax]

Thank you Saffron yes I am very well and so is my OH, we talk pretty regularly and im comfortable with the situation we are in.

 I am kind of looking at it through different eyes now. I have learned a few things about myself since travelling alone and feel more confident and capable of handling any given situation on my own and in my own way. I also feel less pressure to settle down, house kids marry etc, as lots of people my age are doing because that may not necessarily be right for me at this time.

I have so many things I want to do now for myself and with others that I am going to achieve first, I now feel like my eyes are looking in the right direction and that is where I am headed. When I am ready to settle down, I feel my situation with Vix (and his situation with me) will progress to the same place or we will move on from it.

after 26 years i feel I understand a little more about who I am, and the things that have happened to me in my life have led me to this path which I know I am happy to walk down no matter where the road may twist and turn.

[saffron]

Thas a fantastic post Spidax  looking at how much youve achieved through your journey to Sangam in India,and how this is affected you. It will stay with you always, and your so lucky that you are free,have no ties that keep you rooted in one place..so that you can explore on your own ....I know Your parents will always be there to return to..

Its great that you and V are in touch too x

Plan for the next project!!