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on: September 04, 2010, 02:25:11 AM
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Started by chweetgurl - Last post by saffron
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There is hope for some in the indian courts! Brave couple.
Did you see the bit on this newspaper about Honour killings at the bottom?
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on: September 04, 2010, 01:32:23 AM
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Started by booktalker - Last post by saffron
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Isn't this a mess Booktalker? A society that controls from one of the most important aspects of their future community...marriage. It must feel like a trap,one you either learn to accept or defy and face being ostracised..maybe worse...we have it here in another form...but at least we have some choices and many people around us who would accept our decisions and befriend us..not all..but alot of people would...
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on: September 02, 2010, 09:33:48 AM
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Started by booktalker - Last post by booktalker
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Also have a look at this new book - the author will be at the festival - sounds like one for us to add to the reading pile!
The Obscure Logic of the Heart by Priya Basil is a profound love story between a Kenyan Sikh and a British Muslim who meet at University and hide their relationship from their families until a suitcase of letters falls into the wrong hands.
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on: September 02, 2010, 08:46:43 AM
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Started by booktalker - Last post by booktalker
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Birmingham Book Festival is on from 5th to 21st October this year - it has some excellent writers including some whose books we've reviewed, including Raphael Selbourne, who wrote "Beauty," Pakistani Fatima Bhutto, plus discussions on human rights (Gareth Peirce) Maybe see you there! http://www.birminghambookfestival.org/events-2010/festival-2010/ |
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on: September 01, 2010, 09:02:10 PM
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Started by ac - Last post by booktalker
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In a roundabout way, it seems as though this topic has got onto what Being a Traditional Brit is like. Maybe it shows sides of British culture that your British other half understands but you don't always recognise, especially if you've never experienced the real backstreets and roots of that culture, and the subtleties.
As kids, if someone insulted us or called us names, we were taught (by our parents) to say back: "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me." It was a sign of superiority to show that what other people thought didn't affect you (which I suppose has morphed into the ridiculously egotistical attitudes of many celebs, but anyway...) - I thought it was interesting to contrast that with the prevailing South Asian attitude that insults are taken very personally, which is why you don't want your son or daughter to do something considered shameful.
I also believe that if it's kept secret, it's OK, but it's a different story if other people find out. I know that there is a religious confirmation of this, in Islam. Is that true for anyone?
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on: August 31, 2010, 09:04:05 PM
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Started by ac - Last post by chweetgurl
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You have hit it spot on booktalker even my partner was mentioning abt the history of the royal family, He wished they had aired this in the documentry as well so people would have gotten to see a live example happen in this country. Zippred you are right it all comes with the age and time...I genuinely wish you both the very best of luck.. I had to leave my home country to be with my partner, sometimes in life you do end up making sacrifices..But it will definetly be worth it once you are in a stage you are living together both of you will appreciate the relationship even more  |
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on: August 31, 2010, 06:30:35 PM
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Started by ac - Last post by zippred
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If you take things further. Mining and other closely knit communities have high incidence of closely matched DNA. But this is taken to extreme. "MFBS" Keep it in the family.
Another interesting anomaly, if you look at any big institute, there is a lot of inter marriage. For example one hospital I worked in, a high proportion of the staff were related to each other. This was either by marriage or genetically, mother, father, brother, sister, grand parent, uncle, aunt.
So if you upset one person you upset everyone!!! It took me 2 years to become accepted.
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on: August 31, 2010, 12:00:18 PM
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Started by ac - Last post by booktalker
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I have just read an article which reminded me of something else very British, and which is relevant to the first cousins marrying discussion -
The British royal family / aristocracy would go in for first cousin marriages up to a point, if it meant that the castle / estate could be kept in the family (as in that class system, eldest son inherits everything, to make sure the estate never has to be broken up and can be passed on intact). But if you only have a daughter, you want her to marry a first cousin so it doesn't end up going to another family's blood through the male line.
Anyway, it has always been a huge joke amongst the more upper class Brits that aristocratic teenagers always end up 'snogging their first cousin' and even that they are 'inbred'.
Then you get the stories about people living in isolated communities such as the Forest of Dean, where the joke is that no one else would marry into that class so they have to interbreed, which results in deformities such as webbed fingers.
All this to say that marrying first cousins and inbreeding has always been considered something embarassing and / or shameful amongst everyone except those who did it for a reason...
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